Don't Make Assumptions

Assumptions - saying something that presumes you know what another person is thinking, feeling or doing... Doing that always hurt the person about whom they're made and creates a barrier between you and your partner... Remarks like - you don't care about me as much as i care about you, you don't do for me what i do for you, and much more... All these remarks have the effect of closing down the other person and limiting reality to our interpretation of it... Basically we are saying, " I KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHATS GOING ON WITH YOU AND I DON'T NEED YOUR VERSION OF THE STORY " Assumptions usually feel like a violation to the person being perceived... They are reduction of the true complexity of reality and a negation of the other person's essence, taking away his or her uniqueness and freedom  of expression... Assumptions close off possibilities by making people withdraw and hide out even more... Eliminating assumptions opens  the flow to real conversation  in which lovers can show their real selves and discover the beautiful particulars of one another..
"NEVER MAKE ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT THE ONE YOU LOVE"